A pink boy and a blue girl. I just don't get it.

I just read an article about how Shiloh Pitt cut her hair super short.

I have been following her loosely in the media since her birth. I mean who wouldn’t want to see the offspring of two of the most sought after celebs of this day and age.

I am a christian. I am also liberal. I try so hard not to judge. I think it isn’t my place…yet it’s hard to not call a spade a spade. I am no fan of EITHER of her parents. One I believe to be a home wrecker and the other a week knee’d man who couldn’t keep it in his pants.

Okay okay…I know. It is NOT my place to judge. I just don’t think that’s judging. He was married to another woman. He went off and had an affair with his co-star in a movie and she ended up pregnant. Voila. Proof is in the pudding…or in the math if you want to really be accurate. It is what it is. There is something to be said for the fact he remains “with” the mother of his child.

I don’t get the idea of adopting an entire benneton commercial full of children.

I don’t get that they have seemingly ENCOURAGED this child to be nongender conforming since infancy.

I get it. They live an unconventional lifestyle…the entire gaggle of a family.

I don’t get that they don’t see by READING and paying attention that there is such a thing as going TOO FAR in letting your children rule the roost and do whatever they please.

It has been alleged that their house is a wreck because they believe that children should have creative ‘freedom’. It has been alleged that they can’t keep household staff and nanny’s because their kids are off their gourd with their unruly behaviors.

I wonder what makes them experts?

The fact that they have so many and are now just managing the bunch the best and easiest way?

I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to see a celeb version of  THE NANNY on this family!

Anyway, so this whole cutting the kids hair off because she got a bee in her bonnet about wanting it short, like BOY SHORT….made me think of a few blogs I read. Ones that I am on the fence about.

I am not a person that judges by sexual preference. But nor do I freak out if some company doesn’t hire people based on sexual preference either. I see it like those companies that say “smokers need not apply”. It is their choice who they want representing their company. I don’t get involved in it at all. I have no bone to pick either way.

So every time I read some of these blogs I can’t help but feel that some of these parents let their child’s gender nonconformity rule their lives and households. I get the feeling they actually are getting something from the fact their children are so different. It makes me wonder about which ones are truly BORN nonconforming and which ones were MADE nonconforming by their choices for their children.

I don’t think I’m alone. I COULD be; but don’t THINK I am.

I personally believe that a persons sexual preference can be CHOSEN AND BORN. There are plenty of people out there that admit they choose who to be with based on how they feel about the specific person. It could be man or woman.

There are others who say they have ALWAYS known they could only be with a man or woman.

I realize these are two separate issues.

Gender Non conformity and Whether someone prefers same sex partners does NOT always go hand in hand. I get that.

but….

they are related in some ways too.

So….here’s my question.

What if the parents just stopped catering to the “I want sparkly pink shoe” demands of a 2 or 3 yr old boy and said NO, let’s look at spiderman or those Car ones. Do they really think a 2 yr old is going to object all that much? OR REMEMBER that they wanted the pink sparkly ones but mom and dad said no? I really don’t think so.

Just because a toddler walks up to a shiny bright display of pink shoes and says “I want that” doesn’t mean they are gender nonconforming. It means they like the bells and whistles and if the spiderman display lit up and had RED glitter on it..they would be just as mesmerized by it.

I wonder if we aren’t reading a little too much into little kids ideas and thoughts. They are LITTLE KIDS!!

They form their opinions from US as parents.

I honestly could care less if one of my boys came home and announced that he was homosexual. I don’t even think I would miss a beat…I don’t care. Simply…I love them. It doesn’t even register that it would be even a little bit disconcerting for me….because i don’t think it would be.

I know I raised them to be boys. They ARE boys. There is no sparkly shoes here. But in that case I would feel secure KNOWING that it was an inborn instinct for them. Not something they CHOSE for themselves. And if they did…that’s okay. Because I know how I raised them and that I raised them to be what I believed them to be.

So what if these people believe.

I mean with every fiber of their being that their babies are gender nonconforming….are they wrong?

I don’t really think they are.

I think they are doing what they believe is best for their children to accept who they are….but I also think at 2 and 3 and even 4….it isn’t clear yet and sometime signals are maybe taken a little too literally. Wanting Sparkly shoes don’t always = gender nonconforming children and I don’t know if all parents see that.

I hope I didn’t offend anyone. I truly apologize if I did but I really needed to figure this all out in my own head and sometimes this is the best way for me.

I give kudos to ALL parents doing what they can to raise happy healthy children regardless to their unique specifications.

But for Shiloh’s parents. Well….. let’s just say I’m not convinced she isn’t a product of her environment and reacting to that the only way she can.